If like me, you love to applaud yourself or be applauded by others after every step you take, you might want to invest your time in this post.
Now playing: Baby girl – Casper Nyovest (Bimbo sent this song to me to rope me into his lies but no dear, I’m not falling for it. I’m going back to my Jonathan McReynolds playlist when this song ends)
It is well known that as much as a lot of us try to put up the ‘idgaf’ show and the ‘your opinions don’t matter, I’m living my best life doing what I want’ appearance, we lowkey seek validation from certain people and when we get them, our brains go over the top.
Don’t even attempt to deny it.
What do you do when the applause gets too loud?
For most of us, when we achieve one small feat and we get a lot of appraisals telling us that it could only be us and nobody else, how that small feat is one milestone that should be celebrated beyond words and how nobody deserves us; we begin to actually feel like everyone is underserving of us and we have done something out of the ordinary. So what do we do next?
Let me digress a little bit.
I met someone in 2014 and instantly became a big fan of him because not only was he my size, he was also from my state and was doing such great things in the East.
(I would mention names but I honestly don’t have strength for that)
2014, he was the one person that you could refer to as your mentor’s mentor because that was how good he was.
At every chance I got, I made sure that I reminded him about how great he was doing. A whole lot of other people publicly appraised him too. He was so good that when he came to see me in Lagos that year, a lot of people stopped him to say hi.
Eventually, we lost touch and reunited in 2017. It was a glorious meeting seeing that I was still a fan even though I had no idea if he was still keeping up the good work. People still hailed him sha.
We got closer and I realized that this young man still thought of himself as the person he was a few years ago.
A lot of people had met him at his pace and overtaken him, yet he still considered himself Lord over them.
There were days where he would say ‘this person learnt from me. I revolutionized this for these newcomers, they’re nothing without me.’ Those newcomers had gotten better and had physical evidence to show for it but he was still the same person he was in 2014, only older.
I had never seen someone who lived on past glory like this person and one day, I sat down to think about it and I realized that the applause kept getting louder and louder till his ego drowned in it and raised his shoulders too high.
He relaxed and waited for his past to speak for him while his predecessors kept working and making their present continuous do the talking.
Eventually, he became depressed and blamed everyone else but himself for his misfortune.
I tried to help, trust me.
This whole experience made me realize that praises could either choose to make or mar you, depending on how you take them.
I’ve been carried away by a lot of praises. Praises so loud that I stopped creating for a while to bask in the euphoria of the previous step I took but reality hit me when I also realized that your praise singers would move on to the next person who provides them value if you refuse to come down from your high horse and create.
So what do you do when the applause gets too loud?
⁃ You take it in and continue creating so they don’t stop applauding.
⁃ Don’t just be a one hit wonder. Keep making hits until it becomes a way of life for you.
⁃ Nobody ever survived on past glory so don’t for once think that past glory will feed you in this day and age.
⁃ Applaud yourself first after every milestone so that the applause of others doesn’t overwhelm you.
⁃ Get someone to guide you.
HAVE YOU EVER LET APPRAISALS GET INTO YOUR HEAD?
HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED WHAT LIVING ON PAST GLORY GLORY FEELS LIKE?
DO YOU EVER TAKE OUT TIME TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF OF YOU JUST LET OTHERS DO THE APPRECIATING FOR YOU?