Yes, you’ve heard it before and I’m saying it again.
Your friends are a reflection of who you are.
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Often times, I get a lot of flattering messages about my friends and I and how we take advantage of everything at our disposal to push and encourage each other. I beam with pride but then again, these things don’t happen in a day.
I have, over the past five years made friends who have either contributed to my life or taken from me.
No. Not money.
I’m not one to make a lot of friends even though I know a lot of people. Reasons being that:
• I don’t want to get poisoned, any way possible.
• I don’t like unnecessary stress.
• I hate unnecessary stress.
• I want to be around people that can help me grow even when I’m being lazy.
• I don’t like selfish people.
When I remember more reasons, I’ll post them on my Instagram.
These questions from TheCultureFit will be a guide as to how you and your friends can be strong off each other.
I’d be making a lot of personal references so forgive me.
How do I find friends to form my own squad?
This is quite tricky because I don’t think anybody gets into friendship with the aim of being a squad. It’s something that just happens along the line but if the long term plan is to be a squad and remain so, the trick is to find people of like minds but with different perspectives towards life because this would help broaden your thoughts and will teach you tolerance. You have to find out that it’s fine for everybody not to agree with your opinion and it will totally be fine, unless you want a squad that would constantly applaud your excesses and bow before you at your will.
For example, I have very creative friends with different talents, when we come together with the aim of brainstorming, that’s when we begin to understand why we’re friends.
How does everyone put the other person before themselves?
It’s a question of how selfless you can be. If you’re in that friendship to help each other grow, of course it would come easy. It’s a clear case of ‘If one person wins, we applaud the loudest’ because we are first proud to be friends with that person and we realize that our applause would motivate others to stand up and applaud. If one person does something bad, the rest of us cower our heads in shame so we’d also raise our heads up high while we carry each other on our shoulders knowing that a team player scored.
How do you all manage to hold each other down and protect your interests as a team?
The devil will not put us to shame in Jesus name. At this point, it just comes naturally because we’ve been through too much together to not hold each other down.
Behind the scenes, we fight a lot and attempt to break up because of one small mistake but of course every team has that one person that oversees as the elder, who would take out the time to talk sense into us one after the other.
We first imagine how our lives will be without each other and then how beautiful our lives would remain and improve with each other and we realize that it’s something we cannot lose, so we hug and kiss ourselves and renew our vows.
This works because I do not have toxic friends. I have friends who are willing to slap me from my daydream and bring me back to the reality of what I’m supposed to be doing to achieve my dreams.
That being said, if you have toxic friends, you’re punishing yourself.
How do you all bare yourselves out to each other without the fear of being judged.
This is where the trust factor comes into play because why do you have friends who would readily jump at the first opportunity to judge you?
We talk a lot and we all have our different roles to play individually.
I’m most definitely the last person anybody would come and meet to tell that they got drunk and fell into the gutter. I will laugh. A lot. Like a whole lot.
I’m also the very last person who’d accept that you’ve had your very first taste of alcohol because it takes me really long to process such information. I’ll just be living in denial but you can always come and meet me when you have issues pertaining to your mental, emotional and physical well being. I can die for you in these cases.
In very extreme cases where we now have to collectively bare ourselves to each other, we either do it physically or on the group chat and if you’re not going to help in any way, it’s best you just shut up because everybody will face you.
When you consider all being made the center of attraction in such situation, your head will become correct, you’d remove every form of judgement from your feelings.
How do you stay supporting each other 100%?
We have become so used to it now. A lot of times we don’t even give our 100% but because a lot of people that see us are fascinated by the idea of us as friends, they get to think that everything is rosy.
There are days that we slack, there are also days that we get selfish but we of course do not let it becloud our sense of reasoning.
We love each other first, we understand each other and we act like we’re all we’ve got, we annoy each other a lot, sometimes a little too much that it becomes baffling.
We correct each other in love and we try to keep each other on our toes because we’re moved by what we see so we ensure that we let the team see that there’s no room for slacking.
Sometimes we’re childish, but hey, we’re only humans after all.
WHAT ARE YOUR FRIENDS SAYING ABOUT YOU?
DO YOU BELIEVE IN THE ‘SHOW ME YOUR FRIENDS AND I’LL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE’ PHRASE?
ARE YOU YOUR FRIEND’S FRIEND?
DO YOU SUPPORT YOUR FRIENDS OR YOU JUST WANT THEM TO SUPPORT YOU FOR NOTHING IN RETURN?
DO YOU PATRONIZE YOUR FRIENDS?
DO YOU TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS?