I had to deal with a lot this past week and dealing with a serial blackmailer is just the highlight of it all.
No, I wasn’t the one being blackmailed.
Exactly a week today, I got a distress call from a friend asking to see me because she was in a dilemma and she needed my help. I rushed downstairs hoping that it would be the usual I need your help talk where she gets to buy food for me. I was to be surprised.
She had called me down to inform me that she was in trouble as someone was threatening to leak her nudes to the whole world.
I had a lot of questions but the most glaring one was ‘why are nudes in this discussion?’
I’ll tell you the whole story without trying to reveal any hints as to who and who might be involved. Forgive me.
My friend whom we will be referring to as Sister A had met a guy two weeks ago, on a Friday, they talked and he departed with her number, promising to call her whenever he got home and he did. Long phone calls that included giggling and blushing had them setting up a movie date for the Saturday after they met.
Saturday came and my friend happily dressed up for her movie date which had been slated for evening, I have no details about what went on from the beginning to the end of the movie but I know that he had invited her over to his house to chill, and my dear friend, harmlessly followed him to his house.
He had failed to mention that there was a mini party at his house but when they got to his abode, they joined in the party. Things got a little out of hand and she got drunk after a few bottles of alcohol, he had helped her into his room.
Clothes flew off bodies, A only remembered herself mumbling ‘stop’ as she fell asleep while he had carnal knowledge of her.
The story doesn’t start here.
The story started when the Monday that followed, sister A got a whatsapp message from a certain number claiming to be Sister B from Babcock, B had wasted no time in questioning A about her sexual relationship with our dear brother. She had claimed that she had been his constant sexual partner till he decided that he didn’t want to have anything to do with her again.
This was the point that I realized that sex was not ordinary as B kept on gushing about the memories of their sexual encounters with our brother while she didn’t fail to let A that she wanted him back because she missed him and their act of copulation. Discussion was going well till B claimed that she was a hacker and stalker and she had gained access to our brother’s Samsung cloud, she didn’t fail to mention that she found some very raunchy pictures of A that was taken while she was asleep.
Pictures of her NAKED.
A panicked and began to call on everything she knew, begging B to help her delete the pictures from his Samsung cloud, B knew she had the upper hand here and so she decided that she was going to delete the pictures for a fee. A fee that she could not afford even if she got a job for two weeks.
A, in her state of panic confronted bros who calmly explained that he had been trying to gain access to his samsung cloud for a while and it wasn’t working, he also didn’t fail to let her know that he takes pictures of girls naked, whenever they were asleep. It was his fetish.
Okay bros, nice one but B was really on top of her game asking that she be paid the money by Tuesday evening or else, she would release them.
Nothing was adding up to me, I especially wanted to know how one’s Samsung cloud could be hacked that easily. Bros had claimed that B was asking for x5 of the money requested from A to release his Samsung cloud to him, she also wanted to see him and get into his pants one more time for old time sake.
After so much resistance from A, B decided that she was going to release the nudes and A gave her the go ahead while she asked that some handles, mine inclusive be mentioned in the caption that followed the nudes. B, sensing this new found confidence stopped replying A’s messages and went offline for a really long time that day.
Meanwhile I had put two and two together and decided that bros and B had to be working together because for not so obvious reasons, I had called B with my phone and bros returned my call hours later. He probably forgot to use sim two.
I was livid with rage, nothing disgusted me more than this whole scenario at that point, the fact that bros was asking A not to let her friends know that she was being blackmailed made it worse, because we knew and I especially was out to pave way for his exit out of the world of normal and sane people into a place where violators lived, in jail.
He unfortunately was in Abuja at this period.
Don’t ask me how I found out, I know people who know how to track people, please.
I had my friend contact a lawyer while I worked on contacting the armed guys, soldiers to be precise.
I met the most patient and strategic soldiers during this period, they taught me patience at one sitting and made me understand that they were called to serve and protect us bloody civilians.
Bros kept guilt tripping B all the way down to Friday, claiming that he would get his dad’s people to handle it, bearing in mind that after much findings, bros did not tell his father that he violates the privacies of whatever female he takes home by taking nude pictures of them while they were asleep and he wasn’t going to let his father find out. Daddy’s boy goals.
After so much threats, bros had resorted to calling his father’s name in all his chats with A, claiming that A had a hand in the hacking of his Samsung cloud because she wanted to leak his forex trading details.
I failed to mention that he’s a forex trader, yeah? I’m sorry.
He had violated her privacy by taking pictures of her nudes and claimed that he had gotten permission from A to take pictures of her naked, he got permission from a drunk girl? Okay.
Bros made so much noise about getting his dad’s people to walk into the matter, while he was oblivious of the fact that I had people on his trail waiting for him to do his worse.
The issue unfortunately is not yet over as A had to stop replying him to concentrate on her tests for the week.
I’m a bit relaxed now but however, while we advice that ladies be careful of waiting predators, I also personally would advice that you do not go to a guy’s house less than ten years after meeting him. I’m exaggerating the number of years but this encounter opened my eyes to a lot of things.
What’s the essence of someone whose integrity you cannot vouch for?
If in any case you are being blackmailed, get help. You cannot handle it on your own, you will faint because your mind will make you believe that your life is over. Get help.
This could have been a different scenario with anybody, even though I know that I do not drink and would never get drunk and get my nudes taken by an idiot, it still could have been anybody.
I would have on my own, come out to tell the whole world that I was being blackmailed by a fellow and solicit for help from higher authorities.
These situations are mostly avoidable so please avoid them.
What would you have done if you were in A’s situation?
Ever been in such compromising position? How did you handle it?
What’s the best way to handle a blackmailer?